Showing posts with label women's issues. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women's issues. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 27, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Alice Walker

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Welcome to Day 23 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest. 

ALICE WALKER

Alice Walker is a writer, poet, and activist who, according to her website, won the Pulitzer Prize in Fiction in 1983 and the National Book Award. Her biography states she is a staunch defender of not only human rights, but of the rights of all living beings. 

Walker coined the term "womanist" in her book, In Search for Our Mother's Gardens. Howard University states womanists place special focus on issues facing black women, men, and families. There are numerous journal articles written on this topic. 

She has a new children's book out titled, "Sweet People Are Everywhere." The poem addresses a young boy getting his first passport, taking the boy––and the reader––on a journey through a series of countries around the globe where “sweet people” can be found.



Tuesday, April 26, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Vacation & Valued

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Welcome to Day 22 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest. 

VACATION & VALUED

What we all need from time to time is a vacation from life; time away from the day-to-day grind to recharge and refresh. Vacations don't always have to be this ridiculously planned, scheduled down to the minute getaways. You don't even always need to leave your home. It can simply be taking a few days off to do something you enjoy or to accomplish something on your to-do list that you can't during your regularly scheduled work week. Because we go to the Outer Banks in July, I know I'll have some real estate work to accomplish while down there. However, the simple freedom of knowing I can't possibly show houses because I am hundreds of miles away, makes it easier to handle. Then we have the beach, going out to eat, and time to just sit and read. 

I don't think anyone can place a price on the importance of feeling valued. Knowing you're appreciated, knowing you're loved, knowing people respect and trust you is priceless. It's important to show each other how grateful we are that they are in our lives and for how much they do for us. One of my favorite quotes is this one, because even if people can't see your value, your value is not diminished. It may be a struggle to see that, but it's true. 


What is your favorite type of vacation? How do others make you feel valued? How do you remember your value?  

Monday, April 25, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Unbeatable, Unlimited, & Unwavering

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Welcome to Day 21 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest. 

UNBEATABLE, UNLIMITED, & UNWAVERING

The word "unbeatable" might make one think of champions; athletic champions, social rights champions, or academic champions. I like to use it in another way. When I don't let something get me down, I'm unbeatable. When I keep on plugging away despite the odds, I'm unbeatable. When someone tells me I can't and I decide to show them I can, I'm unbeatable. Some call that persistence. Some call that wherewithal. Some probably call it crazy. I just can't be any other way.

Unlimited thinking helps us achieve our goals. If instead of putting obstacles in our way or determining before we get started the reasons we can't accomplish a task, how about being open to dreaming big and envisioning ourselves achieving our goals? Sounds easy, but it's not. We have to take it in baby steps, but the more we do it, the more it will become habit for us.

Unwavering support is important to all of us. It is so much easier to face life when we know we have support along the way. Whether it be from family, friends, or colleagues, that unwavering support helps us succeed and push beyond our comfort zone.

In what ways are you unbeatable? How can you use unlimited thinking to achieve a goal? Who offers you unwavering support?

Saturday, April 23, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Talent

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Welcome to Day 20 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest. 

TALENT

Why are women so quick to dismiss their talents? Some cite a lack of confidence. However, Stéphanie Thomson, in writing her 2018 article, "A Lack of Confidence Isn't What's Holding Back Working Women," for The Atlantic, states research shows though women are told confidence is the key to professional success, the appearance of self-confidence is not equally rewarded in men and women. Researchers concluded, “Women were able to translate their self-confident image into influence only when they also displayed high prosocial orientation, or the motivation to benefit others.” Working women must balance self-confidence with modesty or they are seen as unlikeable and less hirable. 

I guess many of us feel uncomfortable with what we see as self-promotion. In addition, even if we can portray confidence, deep inside, we might wonder if we measure up. That's why this quote from Henry Van Dyke has always been a favorite of mine.



Personally, I feel all talents come from God, so if I am not sharing my talents to better the world, I am dishonoring God's plan for my life. That is part of what motivates me every day. 

What are some of your talents? How do you best use them to serve your community?

Friday, April 22, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Safe

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Welcome to Day 19 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest.  

SAFE

My husband has a very different version of safety than the girls and I do. Rarely does he concern himself with who or what is around him when he walks down the street or visits a new place. The girls and I, however, observe the people around us, what the neighborhood looks like, and the proximity to safety complexes. When we visit colleges, I ask about their campus security response time, something that never crosses my husband's mind. 

Not all of this comes down to gender. My husband is tall and strong. My girls are petite but athletic, so they have physical stamina. That leaves me; little ole hates exercise, sits at her desk for extended periods of time me. Thankfully, I haven't had many scares, but I've had a few in the workplace that are the reason I carry pepper spray and a tactical pen, have a phone app that alerts select people and--if needed--the police with one swipe, scan the perimeter of vacant properties, and know my entrance and exit upon entering a building. 

I won't claim to be an expert, and not every piece of advice works for every person. Here are links to safety tips:





Wednesday, April 20, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Quantum Leap

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Welcome to Day 17 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest. 

QUANTUM LEAP

The science-fiction show Quantum Leap aired from 1989 - 1993. It starred Scott Bakula and Dean Stockwell as Dr. Sam Beckett and Admiral Al Calavicci. The premise of the show is that during a government experiment on time travel, Sam steps into the Quantum Leap Accelerator and vanishes. Instead of traveling within his own lifetime, Sam finds himself trapped in the past, leaping into a variety of people and driven by an unknown force to change history for the better. Al, as an observer from his own time, is his only guide, appearing as a hologram that only Sam can see and hear. Sam leaps from life to life, seeking to right what once went wrong, and hoping the next leap will be his leap home. 

Though I am not a huge fan of science-fiction, I loved Quantum Leap. Probably because I enjoy history, and Scott Bakula isn't tough to look at either. :) 

One interesting concept of the show is that Sam could leap into any gender. IMDB states that Sam leaped into nine women or teenage girls. Here is the rundown on those episodes:

  • "What Price Gloria? - October 16, 1961" - Sam leaps into the body of Samantha Stormer, an attractive secretary, who learns she was promoted because her creepy boss (Buddy) wants to sleep with her. Buddy is already having an affair with Samantha's roommate, Gloria. Though Buddy has told Gloria he will leave his wife, Sam knows he needs to convince her to break it off to avoid heartbreak and her eventual suicide. 
  • "Another Mother - September 30, 1981" - Sam leaps into the body of Linda Bruckner, a divorced mother of three. Sam must prevent her oldest son from running away and never being heard from again.
  • "Miss Deep South - June 7, 1958" - As Darlene Monte, Sam enters a beauty pageant. Not only must he prevent a fellow contestant from posing for nude photos, he must make sure Darlene comes in third place. [This episode might not be as well received if it aired today.]
  • "8½ Months - November 15, 1955" - Sam leaps into the body of a pregnant  teenager. Her mother died and her father wants nothing to do with her. The child's father is off at college and wanted her to terminate the pregnancy. Unless Sam can convince her father to support Billie Jean, she will end up living a life of regret and searching for the child she gave up for adoption. [Not sure how well this one aged without watching it again.]
  • "Raped - June 20, 1980" - Sam leaps into the body of rape victim Kate McBain. When he decides to press charges against the rapist, he discovers it will be hard to prove Kate's date raped her.
  • "A Song for the Soul - April 7, 1963" - Sam leaps into the body of fifteen-year-old Cherea, an African-American singer who dreams of starting a group with her two friends. Sam and Al aren't in sync on why Sam is there. Sam believes it is to prevent one of Cherea's friends (Lynell) from running away. Sam thinks it is to improve Lynell's relationship with her father, who does not support her singing career.
  • "Liberation - October 16, 1968" - When Sam leaps into the body of Margaret Sanders, he discovers she and her daughter were arrested at a women's lib rally. Margaret's activism puts a strain on her marriage, and Al fears the leader of the local women's movement will be shot unless she cancels the next rally. 
  • "Dr. Ruth - April 25, 1985" - If you were at least a teenager in the 80s, you will remember Dr. Ruth Westheimer. In this episode, Sam leaps into Dr. Ruth's body as she is in the middle of her call-in radio show giving advice to Annie Wilkins, who believes her boss is pressuring her to have sex.
  • "Revenge of the Evil Leaper - September 16, 1987" - Sam leaps simultaneously with ex-Evil Leaper Alia. As Liz Tate, Sam finds himself with Alia in a female prison where they are accused of murdering a fellow inmate. Zoey, Alia's observer, manages to leap into the same place and time, so keeping Alia's location a secret from Zoey, who is the prison warden, is the main challenge. 
Do you like when shows tackle tough issues? Did you watch Quantum Leap? How do you think it did in handling women's issues? 

Wednesday, April 6, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Energy

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Welcome to Day 5 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest.

ENERGY

There are two types of energy--positive energy and negative energy. One is productive and beneficial. The other is self-limiting and creates stress. Now, we all know stress can create nasty problems we don't want: headaches, fatigue, muscle pain, and sleep problems to name a few. 

This recent article from Verywell Mind talks about ways to create positive energy in your life. Coupled with that, you need to eliminate negative thoughts and habits. So much easier said than done, but an important piece of the puzzle. 

One negative habit I'm working on is letting go of the past. I have the memory of an elephant. I recall so many past offenses and mistakes. Remembering them, however, serves no purpose. Allowing myself to experience the freedom of forgiving others and myself will help me learn and grow as a person. 

There are other ways to bring positive energy into your life. MindValley talks about them here. One of the most inspiring places for me is the ocean, which I find hilarious since I'm afraid of water and drowning. There is something so refreshing and peaceful about walking with your feet in the soft sand or listening to the waves crash into the shore. I can't seem to find that peace anywhere else. 



What are some ways you bring positive energy into your life? Where is your favorite place for inspiration and peace? 


Tuesday, April 5, 2022

Blogging A to Z 2022 - Dating

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Welcome to Day 4 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest.

DATING

There are so many days I am glad my dating days are behind me. But, you say, what if you are widowed? If I happen to outlive my husband, I don't plan to date or marry again. I've been in a few relationships, had three children with two different men, and am just as happy spending time alone as I am spending time with my husband. I pray I don't have to live without him, but if it happens, I'll figure out life on my own. 

Here are my top three reasons for not wanting to date again:

  1. The Pew Research Center studied public attitudes about our modern dating landscape in August of 2020. Nearly half Americans felt dating had gotten harder in the last 10 years, especially women. I agree. I met my son's father because I lived next door to his older brother. I went to high school with my husband and we worked together, even thought we didn't date until three years after we graduated. It doesn't seem to be as easy to meet people these days and technology seems to have made the whole process of meeting someone impersonal. 
  2. I am super concerned about my safety. Between being a petite person and working in an industry where you could meet strangers on a regular basis, my safety is my primary concern. I've learned to be more aware of my surroundings and take precautions to protect myself, but I don't know that I want to travel down the figure out if the guy I am interested in is a nice person or a sex offender road.
  3. To date could mean showing my body off to someone new, and I am just not going there. I've had three children, and pregnancy was not kind to my body. Neither was breastfeeding, for that matter. The thought of gaining enough confidence to be comfortable with a new person gives me a headache.
Here is a bonus reason why I don't plan to date again: I don't want to spend the time getting to know a new person and worrying if he will accept me as I am, try to change me, or just decide I'm not the one for him. Who needs that stress in their life?

What are your family friendly thoughts on dating? Do you think dating is harder than it used to be? What is the top family friendly reason you would or would not date again?

Saturday, April 2, 2022

Blogging from A to Z 2022 - Balance

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Welcome to Day 2 of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women this year. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest.

BALANCE

A long time ago, someone somewhere must have told women they needed to create balance in their lives. If you Google "balance in your life," that returns 7,810,000,000 results. There are tips to find balance, suggestions on the best way to find balance, definitions of what having a balanced life means, suggestions on how to maintain balance, etc. 

Some writers question if work-life balance exists. Others claim it is entirely overrated. This writer shares what women who successfully balance leadership, family, and well-being have in common

For me, balance has never existed and is unlikely to ever exist. Why? Here are a few reasons:
  1. I'm married to the firstborn male of a Greek family. My mother-in-law, God bless her, waited on that boy from the day he was born until the day he moved into the house we now live in. That worked for their family, and I really didn't even mind being the domestic goddess around here when I was home with the girls, but now that I have a demanding full-time career it is a struggle. No one person can cook, clean, do laundry, grocery shop, work one full-time career and dabble in another. God simply doesn't make enough hours in the day, and even if he did, I would be too tired to stay awake any longer.
  2. I failed in chore chart class. I hated chores growing up. I wanted my kids to enjoy life more, because there would be plenty of working later on. So, I now pay the price for not assigning them chores and getting them in the habit of helping out.
  3. My energy levels aren't what they used to be. I know if I got back to exercising more regularly--I mean, at all--my energy levels would improve. I just can't seem to fit it in. My sleeping habits have never been great, so that doesn't help either.
What I will say is despite all this, I love my life. I'm grateful I was able to stay home for 11 years with the girls. I'm grateful I have served my family well for so many years. Even though I maintain a hectic schedule, I still make time to volunteer and write (mostly edit, but write when I can). 

For me, satisfaction is way more important than balance. I'm getting better about time blocking (still hate it). I'm sticking to my daily Bible reading this year. I might even read a book or two that will help encourage habits to create a better work-life balance. But, if I'm happy, that's all that matters. 

Do you struggle with work-life balance? What have you tried to improve that balance? Do you think that women struggle with work-life balance more than men? Do you feel women try too hard to find balance? 

Friday, April 1, 2022

Blogging A to Z 2022 - Affirmations & Ambition

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The Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (2022) gets underway today. It's been a few years since I participated, so I am excited to join in this year. As a reminder, I will be discussing topics of interest to those who identify as women. The Book Connection is lucky number 78 in a list of more than 140 bloggers who are participating in 2022. I encourage you to check out the list and visit other blogs with topics of interest.

AFFIRMATIONS

The origins of affirmations dates as far back as 1500/1000 B.C., the early 20th century, or the 1980s depending on which source you use. My personal experience with affirmations began in the late 80s/early 90s when I read my first book by Og Mandino, The Greatest Miracle in the World. This book contains "The God Memorandum," which shared the four laws of happiness and success. "The God Memorandum" became so popular, it was published as a separate guide published as early as 1990.

This memorandum, a message to the reader from God, is said to offer "comfort and encouragement to anyone with faltering self-esteem or a lack of motivation." If I recall correctly, the reader was supposed to recite this memorandum once a day for 30 days. 


Do you believe in daily affirmations? What are some of your favorite affirmations?

AMBITION

Ambition is a word that seems to come with a fair amount of negativity for women. Real estate is the first industry I've been part of where women are the majority (currently 67%), which has allowed me to feel more comfortable in celebrating my success.

In this article from 2019, Forbes contributor Caroline Castrillon discussed numerous studies that indicate, culturally, ambition in men is viewed as a positive trait, but is criticized in women. Castrillion also cited a 2017 Pew Center Research survey of adults in the United States that ranked top traits or characteristics of men and women. 

Top three traits for men: honesty/morality, professional/financial success, ambition/leadership

Top three traits for women: physical attractiveness, empathy/nurturing/kindness, intelligence

So, we want men to be honest, financially successful, and ambitious, but those surveyed aren't as concerned about their intelligence (ranked 9 out of 11). However, women are supposed to be attractive (because somehow that means I'm a successful and good person), empathetic, and intelligent, but those surveyed don't see a woman's financial and professional success (ranked 7 out of 13) as important. FYI, single females are 5% more likely to own a home than single men. Oh, and as a former single parent, I can tell you my professional and financial success has always been top of mind.

Susannah Baldwin, author of Women, Language, and Power: Giving Voice to Our Ambition, wrote in this January 2022 article, "The good news is that we can challenge the false belief that to be ambitious is to be unfeminine. And we can learn how to grow comfortable, even confident, in acting on our ambitions and realizing our goals." 

Reciting daily affirmations and changing the way we talk about ambitious women helps us to achieve our goals and gives women everywhere the freedom to succeed on their own terms. 

Friday, August 23, 2013

Sample Review: "You Have Lipstick on Your Teeth" and Other Things You'll Only Hear from Your Friends in the Powder Room Edited by Leslie Marinelli



I downloaded a sample from Amazon of "You Have Lipstick on Your Teeth" and Other Things You'll Only Hear from Your Friends in the Powder Room, which is an anthology of bold and humorous short stories by women, for women, about being women.

COVER: I love it! It makes you think back to around 1950 or so...or at least before I cared if I walked out of the house with lipstick on my teeth. When was the last time I wore lipstick anyway?

The first story is about sibling rivalry. Not the typical one, but the one where you like one breast better because it grew in faster and looks better than the other one. The second story is about a woman trying to work up the courage to tell the friend she goes out with every Saturday night that she dances like a stripper and everyone is watching.

I have to admit these were a couple of funny stories, but I could do without the obscenities. I know, I'm becoming a prude in my old age. LOL! Some of the stories might push the envelope a bit: "There Is No Ball Drying at the Dinner Table" and "My Vagina Is Like a Flower--a Cauliflower" come to mind. Others sound just plain hilarious: "Confucius Say: When Shit Hits Fan, Girlfriends Bring Pooper Scooper" and "Friends Let Friends Pee Their Pants."

I'm not planning to buy the full version yet, but I might. Depends on my mood. After checking out the website that was the inspiration for this book, I'm afraid my sense of humor might be curtailed if the content is too vulgar.


File Size: 372 KB
Print Length: 243 pages
Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1490963413
Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
Publisher: PRG Media; 1 edition (July 31, 2013)
Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
Language: English
ASIN: B00EA7ZNHO

I downloaded a free sample to my Kindle. This review contains my honest opinions, which I have not been compensated for in any way.




Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Book Review: The Chocolate Diaries by Karen Scalf Linamen

A funny and inspiring book that blends personal stories and advice with a love of chocolate to help you manage the obstacles along the "rocky road of life."

In The Chocolate Diaries, Karen Scalf Linamen shares stories from her life and those of other women, to bring you a helpful book on surviving the trials and tribulations of daily life. From broken relationships to deaths, and from the challenges of raising children to the difficulties of picking up your life and starting all over again, Linamen sprinkles these uplifting stories with a dose of humor and lots of chocolate.

As I mentioned in my First Chapter Review of this book on Monday, the author wastes no time in setting up her theme: misery and chocolate. She opens in the kitchen and food plays a part throughout the book. While the chapters and stories might change, you can be sure of three things: 1) the question, "What's your secret to a sweeter journey on the rocky road of life?" will be asked during each chapter and be answered by a different individual; 2) there is a Food for Thought section toward the end of each chapter that allows the reader to reflect on what she has read and how it applies to her life; and 3) each chapter ends with a quick and easy recipe.

As Linamen states within the book, misery and food--namely chocolate--have a long history, so it makes sense to blend them together. This faith-based inspirational read will help you smile. It will probably even make you chuckle. Most importantly, it will help you devise a plan for surviving and thriving despite the bumps in the road.

Title:  The Chocolate Diaries: Secrets to a Sweeter Journey on the Rocky Road of Life
Author:  Karen Scalf Linamen
Paperback: 208 pages
Publisher: WaterBrook Press (May 3, 2011)
ISBN-10: 1400074029
ISBN-13: 978-1400074020
SRP: $13.99

I received a free e-copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest opinions. I received no monetary compensation of any kind for this review.

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Monday, February 20, 2012

First Chapter Review: The Chocolate Diaries by Karen Scalf Linamen


This book is one of the few that doesn't come from my free Kindle e-book collection. I requested this book for review from Blogging for Books through WaterBrook Multnomah. As is sometimes the case, I requested a few too many books to review last year and now I am scrambling to catch up.


TITLE: The Chocolate Diaries: Secrets for a Sweeter Journey on the Rocky Road of Life

AUTHOR: Karen Scalf Linamen

BLURB: Karen Linamen dishes up a satisfying blend of moxie and mocha, sharing stories from dozens of women who reveal savvy strategies for embracing a sweeter life—even while traveling rocky roads. If you’re hungry for more joy, reasons to laugh again, ideas to help you heal, and reliable hope leading to a sweeter future, this journey will leave you satisfied.

Funny, transparent, and uplifting, The Chocolate Diaries is like taking a road trip with good friends who are wise about life. And while you’re at it, indulge (just a little) in the quirky recipes for concocting chocolate delights out of whatever ingredients you can round up in your kitchen. The road may still be bumpy, but you’ll be having too much fun to care.

COVER:  Although it's a bit too purple for my tastes, it definitely captures the essence of the book. The diary page directly relates to the title, as does the sweet that is pictured next to the brown drizzled title. Simple, but nice.

FIRST CHAPTER:  The narrative opens with the author finding her fifteen-year-old daughter cooking in the kitchen at 3 a.m. because she couldn't sleep. In love with Italian cooking, Kacie also wants to marry Robert, the nephew of Buddy Valastro from Cake Boss. The author quickly moves from Kacie to how watching the Food Network has a show that best represents her life. The show is called Chopped.

In between this moving narrative is a question, "What's your secret to a sweeter journey on the rocky road of life?" This is answered by another person who the author has posed this question to--in Chapter One that person is Cindi Chase Joseph from California. The narrative continues and then ends with a "Food for Thought" section that asks questions of the reader, followed by the "Because Real Women Don't Need A Cookbook" section that includes a recipe.

KEEP READING!  Confession time. I'm on Chapter 8.  What I like about this opening chapter is that the author wastes no time in getting to her theme:  food and those big and little obstacles we all face in life. As I already know from reading ahead, her daughters play a significant role in this book, so that it opens with Kacie is not a surprise. I liked that aspect anyway, because so much of a mom's life is her children, it made sense. The format of The Chocolate Diaries is also great because it provides the reader other people's perspectives on how to handle the challenges they face, while giving them time to reflect at the end of each chapter, and the reward of a quick and easy recipe.

Paperback: 208 pages
Publisher: WaterBrook Press (May 3, 2011)
ISBN-10: 1400074029
ISBN-13: 978-1400074020
SRP:  $13.99
 
I received a free e-copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinions. A full review will follow shortly. I received no monetary compensation for my review.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Guest Blogger: Shobhan Bantwal, Author of The Full Moon Bride

Today's special guest is Shobhan Bantwal, author of The Full Moon Bride. Shobhan was supposed to be here on September 8th, but I messed up my calendar. Sorry for the delay in getting this posted.

What makes a marriage-love or compatibility? Passion or pragmatism? Shobhan Bantwal’s compelling new novel explores the fascinating subject of arranged marriage, as a young Indian-American woman navigates the gulf between desire and tradition…

To Soorya Giri, arranged marriages have always seemed absurd. But while her career as an environmental lawyer has flourished, Soorya is still a virgin, living with her parents in suburban New Jersey. She wants to be married. And she is finally ready to do the unthinkable…

Soorya’s first bridal viewings are as awkward as she anticipated. But then she’s introduced to Roger Vadepalli. Self-possessed, intelligent, and charming, Roger is clearly interested in marriage and seems eager to clinch the deal. Attracted to him in spite of her mistrust, Soorya is also drawn into a flirtation with Lou, a widowed colleague who is far from her family’s idea of an acceptable husband.

In choosing between two very different men, Soorya must reconcile her burgeoning independence and her conservative background. And she must decide what matters most to her-not just in a husband, but in a family, a culture, and a life…

Stories or Viewpoints?


By Shobhan Bantwal

I believe that all writers inevitably project in their writing their pet theories and biases, intentionally or otherwise. Even journalists, who are expected to remain objective, cannot help but infuse their articles and blogs with their own personal views. Television has spawned a new breed of journalists who air their political and social opinions without fear of possible repercussions.

Fiction has come a long way, too, since the Internet has turned into a world theater where anyone and everyone can air their opinions on pretty much any subject. As a result, writers have begun to put many of their personal obsessions and hang-ups in their novels. Genres are now blending in the most interesting patterns, with vampires and policemen working together to solve mysteries, women falling in love with men who can turn into wolves, panthers and specters instantly. I often wonder if these writers have a secret desire to live such unusual and mysterious lives themselves.

As for myself, the good thing about being a fiction writer in the 21st century is that I have all the freedom to write what I want—artistic license. As a story-teller I can pick and choose my topics and spin tales around them. The characters and scenes come purely from my imagination but they are often based in reality to some degree. I can write sad, humorous, mysterious, frightening, serious, or crazy stories, so long as they keep my readers reading and wanting more.

I put many of my own anxieties into my novels. For example, I am terrified of snakes. I have always had an obsessive fear of reptiles in general. At least two of my novels have references to snakes and how they scared the dickens out of one or more of my characters. I am also a hopeless romantic, and it shows in my stories. There is always a romance blossoming between my protagonist and her hero. My stories would be bland without that romantic angle, so I pepper them generously with romance.



Besides authoring five novels, Shobhan Bantwal is a freelance writer and award-winning fiction writer featured in publications such as The Writer, India Abroad, Little India, India Currents and New Woman India. She regularly donates a portion of her book earnings to women's charities. For information on her books, contests, events, recipes, photos, contact, and favorite charities, visit her website at http://www.shobhanbantwal.com/ or her facebook page at www.facebook.com/ShobhanBantwal.author.



Tuesday, June 8, 2010

A Very Dangerous Woman by Sherry H. Penney and James D. Livingston -- Book Review



When one thinks of women's rights in early America, the names Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Lucretia Mott come to mind. There's a statue of these three women at the U.S. Capitol.

A Very Dangerous Woman: Martha Wright and Women's Rights by husband and wife, James D. Livingston and Sherry H. Penney, however, tells the story of another early activist for women's rights.

Martha Wright was the younger sister of Lucretia Mott. Her fear of public speaking and the raising of her large family prevented Wright from participating in some ways during the early years, and as such, even though she was well-written and continued to support women's rights her entire adult life, she has long lived in the shadow of her sister, Lucretia, who was a well-known Quaker preacher and antislavery activist by the time it came to organize the Seneca Falls Convention in 1848.

Martha Wright was James Livingston's great-great grandmother. Through much research and Wright's personal letters, Penney and Livingston have sought to help Wright move out of the shadow of her more famous sister, to take her place among the influential women of her time. Wright's opinions on abolition, women's rights, and organized religion did not make her very popular with her Quaker neighbors, and as such, she earned the reference of, "a very dangerous woman".

I was thoroughly impressed with this well-written, engaging account of Wright's life. Told in a fairly chronological manner, A Very Dangerous Woman takes the reader through Wright's Quaker beginnings and early influences, her first love, an ill-fated relationship, her marriage to David Wright, the many years Martha spent balancing her family with her interest in abolition and women's rights, the Civil War years, and beyond.

While Martha Wright is an inspiring historical figure, she suffered through much tragedy, not unlike many women of her time. She was expelled from her family's religious group for daring to marry Peter Pelham, a non-Quaker. Peter and his new wife traveled to Florida in the hopes of improving his health and meeting with business success, but Peter's health and business continued to fail. Martha would soon find herself a young widow with a newborn daughter. Aspiring artist, Julian Catlin eventually captured Martha's heart, only to fall to his death while sketching a waterfall.

Martha and David Wright shared a desire to see slavery come to an end, but David did not support women's rights. Like modern women today, Martha struggled to balance her family life and outside interests. She was forced to choose sides between friends when the leaders of the women's rights movement split and formed separate organizations.

She would serve as secretary for and president over many women's rights conventions, and could count William Lloyd Garrison, William Seward, and Harriet Tubman among her friends.

A Very Dangerous Woman paints a touching and inspirational picture of a woman ahead of her time, who believed in freedom for all men and women. A woman whose quick wit and humor was admired by many of her contemporaries, Martha Wright definitely left her mark on America. While she, like many other early organizers of the women's rights movement, would die before the passage of the Nineteenth Amendment, Wright's contributions are brought to light in this moving story.

I felt the authors did an excellent job in remaining unbiased in their account of Wright. I highly recommend A Very Dangerous Woman to anyone interested in the women's rights movement, influential early American women, how the Civil War affected the women's rights movement, and those wishing to learn more about Martha Wright.


Title: A Very Dangerous Woman: Martha Wright and Women's Rights
Authors: Sherry H. Penney and James D. Livingston
Publisher: University of Massachusetts Press
ISBN-10: 1558494472
ISBN-13: 978-1558494473
SRP: $24.95

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Special Holiday Feature: Christmas Cousins by Joy DeKok



SPECIAL HOLIDAY FEATURE

"Christmas Cousins" by Joy DeKok, author of Rain Dance

I got a small doll with a high chair and other extras. My brother got a car race track. As much as we enjoyed the presents, it was the cousins that mattered most.


We were gathered at Dorothy and Lee’s house where they lived with their three boys. My cousin Sheila was there and so was our Grandma. My uncle and dad enjoyed the race track and played with it more than the boys. My brother was a cowboy that year and our cousin Scott an army guy. Sheila and I were pretend mommies and best friends.
We were allowed to stay up late and while that sounded good, I tend to get a little on the goofy side when over tired. I was nearing exhaustion, but nowhere near ready to give up unless required to do so.

As adults do when watching the kids they love, the noticed how we’d grown – we were like stair steps– Randy the oldest to Scott the youngest. Tallest to shortest.
Lining us up for a picture was a bit of a challenge. We were all agreeable and obedient, but one of us had a problem. Me. I could not stop laughing and nothing funny had happened. I was alive and happy and tired and out of control.

For a moment driven by the need to take a deep breath (and after a stern parental look) I’d been able to stop giggling. Then, it happened. I heard Randy laugh. Then Steve. Then Sheila. Well, then it was my turn again and I was worse off than before – I now had back up!

We enjoyed our family, our gifts, and the yummy food, but the best part was the line-up of laughing cousins.



Joy DeKok and her husband, Jon, live in Minnesota on thirty-five acres of woods and fields. Joy has been writing most of her life and as a popular speaker shares her heart and passion for God with women. In addition to writing novels, she has also published a devotional and several children’s books.

Visit Joy online at: www.joydekok.com, www.raindancebook.com, www.believe4kids.com and www.gettingitwrite.net.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Arnie Berger from Widow's Walk by Ken Weene (Giveaway)



We have a very special guest dropping by today, Arnie Berger from Ken Weene's novel, Widow's Walk.

I’m Arnie Berger. I live inside Ken Weene’s new book, Widow’s Walk. Ken asked me to write an essay about being happy. Much as I wanted to, I couldn’t turn him down. I’m not a happy guy. I was once. When Mary was alive, when we were dating, when I thought we’d get married: boy was I happy. It wasn’t just that I was looking down the road and seeing a good life. I was truly happy. It wasn’t just the physical side of our relationship – good as that was; it was the meshing of kindred spirits, of two souls asking the same questions.

I have this card. It was from Mary’s first adult ed class. The teacher had asked for the students to spell out their questions. Mary wrote, “How do you balance the commitments to God, to others, and to yourself?” As if that wasn’t grand enough, then she asked, “How important is love?”

How could I not love a woman who asked questions like that?

Once I had told her I’m better at questions than I am at answers. Well, she was quite the questioner. I’ll keep that card forever just like I’ll keep those memories. To be honest, it’s those memories more than anything else that keep me alive. To be in love, to truly feel that you and another are as one: that is the highest moment, what I call a peak experience.

There are other great moments. I still have a few. Sean and I have stayed close. He and Karen have been great parents. I see so much of Mary in them and in their kids. Robert is a special joy. He’s in college now. We get together and talk about life. He considers me a grandfather, and that’s pretty wonderful. It isn’t like life has lost all meaning. But, I don’t think I’ll ever have another love – not one like I had with Mary.

Then I was alive – alive in the anticipation of the moment and open – so open – to the possibilities. In some ways I was a boat at harbor, snug and safe against my mooring yet yearning to be at sea. Knowing the joy of the moment while eager for the future. Great metaphor! The only glitch is that I get seasick.

I guess there’s a point here. If you’re happy, truly happy, then live in that moment. Enjoy it to the fullest because you can never know how choppy the sea might get. At least then you’ll have the memory of that safe harbor and the joy of that wonderful moment to think back on and to cherish.

Life goes on. I tell my students that. As a college professor I feel I have an obligation to let them know. Life goes on. Be careful to load up on the memories that will be there for the long and often painful run.

I guess that’s why Ken wanted me to write this little note – to remind me to hold fast to those memories, to the moments of our love, to the joy that was Mary. Tonight I’ll cry over those memories, but I will smile through the tears.

For more of Mary and my story read Widow’s Walk, by Kenneth Weene and enjoy the love within.

Giveaway Details:

Author Kenneth's Weene's Widow’s Walk is a story of good people's struggle – sometimes successfully and often not – to deal with the challenges in their lives. The novel reflects how family, friendship, love, faith, and character affect that struggle.

Join author, Kenneth Weene, on his blog book tour September 1-30. Take the time to leave comments along the way and you'll be entered in a drawing with a chance to win two different prizes.

The first giveaway is Kenneth Weene's poetry book which will go to a few different commenters.

The second giveaway is a copy of his book Widow's Walk to one lucky commenter


A New Englander by upbringing and inclination, Ken Weene’s career – primarily in New York – included teaching, pastoral care, and psychology. Throughout his career Ken has also been devoted to writing. His poetry has appeared in a number of publications – both print and web. He authored a number of professional publications. His short stories and essays have also been published. One of his short plays was recently workshopped. An anthology of Ken’s work, Songs For My Father, was published 2002. His novel, Widow’s Walk, has been published in 2009. Ken and his wife, Roz, now live in greater Phoenix where he spends much of his time writing.

He started writing, primarily poetry, in the 1980s. Regarding Widow's Walk, Weene says, "Stepping away from full-time work was the best decision I ever made. Writing this story has given me tremendous personal satisfaction, and it has shown me an avenue for expression I will always treasure."


If you haven't already read Widow's Walk, be sure to pick your copy up at Kenneth Weene’s Author Website - http://widows-walk.webs.com/ or Amazon.com.

You can connect with him on Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/kenneth.weene or Twitter - https://twitter.com/Ken_Weene.

For more information about Kenneth Weene and his virtual tour, check the schedule at http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2009/08/widows-walk-blog-tour.html

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Kandy Siahaya Makes Light of Being Heavy


Today's guest blogger is Kandy Siahaya, author of the women's issue humor book, Making Light of Being Heavy. She says:

These days everyone has a society-driven mindset and totally forget to laugh, especially at themselves. This may be cliche but I truly believe that laughter is the best medicine and I think everybody should laugh every day. Period. Over the years as a person blessed with the fat gene, I have been in many situations where if I could not find humor I probably would end up on the couch in the psychiatrist's office. This book is about as politically incorrect as it gets for such a subject but it is also based on reality. This is a reality that many women have just like me, but do not think they can (or should) at times just laugh about it.

My intention when I started writing this book was to hopefully give insight to many who could never relate but at the same time perhaps provide a different perspective to women just like me. It is a point of view that has given me the strength to live my life happily and project these feelings onto everyone I come in contact with. I have a great sense of humor and a quick with and guarantee you will be laughing (and thinking) with each chapter of Making Light of Being Heavy.

Kandy Siahaya was raised in a small town in Maine where she graduated from high school in 1984. She worked her way up from her first job as CSW to Manager of Kentucky Fried Chicken and ended up in Brunswick, Maine. When she decided to leave the fried chicken business at age 22, she packed up her little Chevy Chevette and moved to Fort Myers, Florida where she worked as a waitress and had a great time as a single girl in her 20's. Reality hit when she was 25 years old and went back to Maine and received her Associates Degree at Beal College and promptly moved back to Florida and started a career in medical transcription. In 1995 at age 29, she met her future husband and moved to North Miami Beach, Florida, and continued with transcription starting her own business.

In 2002, Kandy left North Miami Beach and moved back to Maine with her five-year-old son and eventually divorced in 2005. Kandy still does medical transcription but had an unexpected decline in work which left her with a lot of time on her hands. This is when she decided to write a book. This is something she had been thinking about for a few years but never had the time because she was always so busy with her business. It was meant to be a quick and funny read, something to brighten the outlook of many that really do not see the light through their own tunnel vision. It was also intended to be insightful for those that could never possibly relate to this specific subject. Kandy has succeeded in doing just that with Making Light of Being Heavy.

For more information please visit www.makinglightofbeingheavy.com.

Today, Kandy shares with us a little incident involving a cruise ship and a shower.

Kandy's turn:

Ah yes, one of those terrible moments….First let me intro this with a little history. Many may recall the show The Love Boat back in the 1980s. I loved that show! I still remember the song - “…The Love Boat soon will be making another run, The Love Boat promises something for everyone, set a course for adventure, your mind on a new romance…” I used to daydream about being on a cruise ship and going to exciting places and having fun all night dancing and going to the shows. I couldn’t wait until the day I could go on a cruise myself and the day did finally come a couple of years after my son was born. We were going on a five-day Carnival cruise stopping in Key West and Cozumel. I was so excited. It was everything I had imagined and even better with yummy drinks and food everywhere. That is until I went to use the shower. Now I understand that they design these ships for maximum capacity and that is all good unless you are a little heavier than the average cruiser. I was attempting to take a shower in my luxurious shower stall which seriously didn’t appear to be more than a foot wide when it seemed like there was a problem with the water. It kept going on and off, on and off. I was starting to get a little irritated until I realized that with every move I made because it was such a tight fit I kept hitting the knob and turning the water on and off! I still laugh when I think about it.

Monday, September 17, 2007

You Are More Than Enough Every Woman's Guide to Purpose, Passion & Power by Judi Moreo--Book Review


Phenomenal! Outstanding! Fascinating! You Are More Than Enough Every Woman’s Guide to Purpose, Passion and Power by Judi Moreo is the one book that every woman must read!

If you are tired of just making it in this world; if you have ever desired to achieve success; if you have ever wanted to feel good about yourself every day of your life, then you have to read this book.

Motivational speaker and life coach, Judi Moreo, has put together an amazing self-help book for women that can change their lives. Filled with motivational quotes, powerful affirmations, easy to follow exercises, and a tremendous amount of sound advice, You Are More Than Enough gives women the power to make the changes they have always wanted to make, but were too afraid to try. In this book, Moreo shows readers how they can choose their future by ridding themselves of negative feelings, fear of failure, and self-doubt.

I’ve never put much stock in self-help books. A few weeks before Moreo’s book arrived in my mailbox, a friend asked me if I could recommend any good self-help books for women and I scoffed at her. I don’t read that drivel.

But Judi Moreo has made a believer out of me. Within just a few weeks, I can already see the positive changes taking place in my life. By reciting daily affirmations and performing the exercises found after each chapter, I have a much happier view of my life, I am confident I have what it takes to be successful, and the way I see the world has changed dramatically.

If you could only afford to buy one book this year, it should be You Are More Than Enough Every Woman’s Guide to Power, Passion and Purpose. The power to change your life is in your hands. Let Judi Moreo be the one to show you how to make it happen.

To read my interview with Judi Moreo, go to http://thebookconnectionccm.blogspot.com/2007/08/meet-motivational-speaker-and-author.html