Interview: Megan van Eyck, Author of Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress

Joining us today is Megan van Eyck, author of Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress: A Love Story. This book has fascinated me since I heard about it, and I am thrilled to have Megan here today to talk about it.

Welcome to The Book Connection, Megan. It's great to have you here. Can you tell us a bit about yourself?


I want to start by saying that I am a very different woman than I was four years ago. Now I am a happily married mother of two children. My family is my life and focus and I am thankful for every blessing each day brings.
But a few years ago I was involved in a five-year-long extramarital love affair with Carlos, a married man. While some affairs are only about sex, others are about love. Our affair started off being about sex, but ultimately love was what kept us together.

Our affair ended when he died of Amyloidosis, a rare blood condition.

And yes, my husband does know of my affair and my book. We both accept the ironic fact that our marriage wouldn’t have lasted, or healed, had it not been for my affair.


When did you begin writing?


I began writing a little more than three years ago. I never had any plans to be a writer. Friends had told me it was something I was good at, but I never felt I had a story to tell. Then Carlos died. I wanted to do something to raise awareness for Amyloidosis, which affects 3,000 people and their families annually.

For me, writing a book seemed the most natural and logical way to honor his memory and our love.

What is this book about?


Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress chronicles my five-year affair with a man I considered to be the love of my life. But more than that, it is my personal story, in which I share the details of a turbulent childhood and what I learned from it: my inability to love myself.

While Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress is the story of an affair, it is also a reflective story about coming to terms with myself and my ideas about love. Lastly, it is a story of reconciliation. It is a story about the love I shared with both my lover and my husband.

What inspired you to write it?



Love inspired me to write my book and my husband’s love is what encouraged me to publish. For me, everything in life is always about love.


Where can readers purchase a copy of your book?


If you visit my website at: http://www.widowedmistress.com/ where you will find two sample chapters and a link to purchase my book through Amazon.com.


What is up next for you?
Actually, my family is preparing for a big adventure: We are moving to The Netherlands. So now my life is busy with Dutch lessons, looking at rental properties, preliminary packing, and stockpiling American items I can’t live without.

Fortunately, technology offers the opportunity to be both a Dutch housewife and an American author.

Needless to say, this is a very exciting time!

Thanks for spending time with us, Megan. We wish you continued success.