Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Female Friendship by Barbora Knobova, Author of Tales for Delicious Girls
Today's guest blogger is Barbora Knobova, author of Tales for Delicious Girls.
What’s in a word? Anything you want there to be! D for daring, E for enchanting,
L for loving, I for inspiring, C for captivating, I for intriguing, O for outgoing, U for unique, S for sophisticated: DELICIOUS.
Twenty-five exhilarating real-life stories about delicious women, eccentric men and stubborn dogs.
This book is meant to entertain you. It will make you laugh until there are tears in your eyes. It will become your faithful companion, and will help you find yourself. It was written for you because you’re delicious – the most delicious girl in the world.
Tales for Delicious Girls offers witty, refreshing, clever and ironic insight into relationships between men and women from all points of view. The book is a modern relationship manual, providing answers to the most pressing dating and friendship questions that strong, independent, modern women want to know. Tales for Delicious Girls deals with wishes, desires and dreams – as well as hilarious mishaps and dating disasters.
However, Tales for Delicious Girls is not simply a humorous book. In addition to entertaining the readers, the tales will inspire women to think about their own life and relationships, see themselves through different eyes and realize that they are their own best friend, the pillar of their own life, and the only person they can always count on. Tales for Delicious Girls encourages women to love, respect and appreciate themselves, to live the life they have always wanted, and become aware of their true uniqueness and deliciousness.
Tales for Delicious Girls contains over fifty beautiful, original illustrations by Nela Vadlejchova
"Female Friendship: Fragile, Tricky And So Necessary" by Barbora Knobova
My book, Tales for Delicious Girls, deals with many aspects of relationships that we women have. Our relationships with men, the relationship we have with ourselves, and last but not least, our relationships with other women.
At the end of one of the chapters about female friendship, Why Women Compete With Women, I say: "I do believe that women should simply stick together. Our lives are complicated enough, full of obstacles, trouble with men, with kids, with parents, with the world around us. Every day we have to fight, strive, prove something to somebody. That's why we should pull together. We don't necessarily have to love each other, we don't always have to agree, but we shouldn't try to trip each other up and hurt each other only because we're not always happy with ourselves and because sometimes things just don't go our way. We should trust ourselves and each other and listen more. Life in our female pack would be much happier then."
Yes, female friendship is tricky. It can be very deep and very honest but also very treacherous and even toxic. Nevertheless, I very much believe in the importance of female friendship and its bond. I think women should back each other up. They shouldn’t be competitive, envious, jealous and malicious. They should rise above their petty disputes because female solidarity and loyalty are one of their greatest powers.
Well, in a perfect world all this would be true but what about the world we live in? How to deal with the doubts, questions and insecurities brought about by the complex labyrinth of female friendships? And how can you know that your Best Friend is your Real Friend?
1. She is there for you. Now I don’t mean small talk over a cup of latté every other week or shopping for vintage clothes. You know that your Best Friend is your Real Friend when you can dial her number at two in the morning to ask for help or to simply cry on her shoulder and she won’t be bothered by your late night call. She is there for you when you need her most because she is sensitive to your moods, to the look in your eyes and to your gestures, and she knows you so well that she can sense when something is wrong. Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on absolute and unconditional trust.
2. She is happy for you. We all have our ups and downs. Sometimes we are on top of the world and sometimes we hit the rock bottom. You know that your Best Friend is your Real Friend when she is able to be happy for you even if her life is not going as well as yours. She doesn’t envy you, she’s generous and your happiness is hers. Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on mutual empathy.
3. She tells you the truth (even if it hurts). We all make mistakes but sometimes we don’t want to admit them. And sometimes we don’t even want to be reminded of them. You know that your Best Friend is your Real Friend when she’s not afraid to tell you the truth, no matter how harsh it is and no matter how much it may upset you. Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on straightforward honesty.
Now let’s get back to the three paragraphs and have a look at the last sentences: Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on absolute and unconditional trust. Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on mutual empathy. Your Best Friend is your Real Friend when your friendship is based on straightforward honesty.
Unconditional trust. Mutual empathy. Straightforward honesty. The three pillars of friendship. Look for them if you are not sure whether your Best Friend is your Real Friend. And remember to love and cherish your female pack because real friends never let you down.
Barbora Knobova is a writer, love coach and expert in Delicious Life. A world traveler, she is one of those rare world citizens who live everywhere and nowhere. Barbora is a firm believer in female friendship, loyalty and bonding. She writes hilarious, sharp-witted, caustically apt, ironic, moving, true books for strong, independent, smart, fearless women. Barbora has also written several self-improvement books and teaches women about the importance of self-love in relationships and life in general. Barbora speaks eight languages and has found her home away from home in New York, London and Milan. She is always on the move, accompanied by her beagle Brinkley, the nasty dog from her new book Tales for Delicious Girls.
Visit the author online at http://www.barboraknobova.com