The Internet changed the whole dating scene--and many other scenes too. And writing up your online profile can be an intimidating thing. This is a subject that Cherie tackles in Internet Dating is not Like Ordering a Pizza. Today Cherie's article will discuss the top three mistakes people make when creating their online profiles.
The Top Three Mistakes People Make in Creating Their Online Profiles
We all become attached to certain photos over the years, but if you're going to be successful with Internet dating you have to put up a photo that reflects who you are right now. Have a friend bring his or her digital camera and shoot some candid pictures of you before you put up a profile. Then, choose one great head and shoulders shot, a full body shot, and a couple that show some things you like to do in your free time. Let the pictures help tell your story.
Using Defensive Language in Your Profile
If you read through profiles online, you will find that a lot of folks have been burned by love. How do I know? They write about it in their profile with headlines like:
"Are there any decent guys left?"
"Nice guys finish last?"
Rather than complaining about love in your headline or essay, use that space to show a potential match what you're really like. Internet daters are reading your profile because they want to get to know you, not hear you complain. (Besides that, we all have dating horror stories we could share if we really want to.)
Having Inappropriate Search Criteria
The thing about Internet dating is that it asks you for superficial things in order to match you up with someone. The result is that daters will list their "most ideal" match, based not on someone real but on "their dream person."
For example, when filling out age requirement, many men will put a range of 18- ?. The "?" being one year younger than them. When women look at this age range, they are immediately put off, even if they fall into the range. This gives a poor impression because if you are 35 do you really want to date an 18-year old? Men will sometimes think that they just want a girl "that's of legal age" and don't give much thought to the real-life scenario.
Women, also, typically fill out income range a little higher than is probably practical. They may state a high income range because they want a man who is "stable," and when they think of what that word means it translates to filling out income range when it comes to a profile.
The thing you need to consider is what types of qualities do you want in someone. If, for example, you want someone "stable," write a profile that will attract someone of a similar mindset. Then, do your homework. Meet them for coffee and see if they are indeed someone you want to get to know. Your search criteria, unfortunately, will not do that for you.